Tell me it’s real (Number 2)

2.  Prioritize

Not everybody will agree with your dreams and therefore, will say things that will persuade you to divert from the path you are heading to. When you have already walked so far and feel empty, I tell you.. that is a sign. This time, you cannot blame anyone, not even yourself because you have already had enough struggles.

When setting a goal, you must understand the trade-offs and sacrifices you must do. Mark Manson highlights this concept really well. (his blog is amazing by the way! I’m halfway through reading the whole blog haha)

If you highly prioritize your family and friends then opening a new business is not really the best option as of the moment. I am saying this because in order to successfully gain back what you have spent on your new venture (let’s say, your Return on Investment), you must be able to commit lots and lots of time, energy, and resources to capitalize your brand. With technology, that also includes outside your working hours so technically, that entails a 24/7 monitoring for at least the first few years to sustain its success.

If you highly prioritize new challenges and continuous travels, then starting a family is not really the best option at this time. My wanderlust for trying out so many things by the time I graduate and even still in school is so much that I assured myself that marriage will be at the bottom of my list, for now. Relationships are important to me; however, the level of commitment I have is allotted to my career management and investments to become a better person. I am not saying that I am not satisfied with what I have rather I am still certain that there is more that I can do. I can be ambitious and I did not want to sacrifice that over the pressures of a gender role I am expected to fill just because I am a woman. I want to have a family, don’t get me wrong. I love kids, so much! I can imagine myself staying at home to cook for my loved ones and preparing my child’s first day of school kit. It can be nostalgic to foresee that future but I do not want to get there and regret things that I have always wanted to do but was unable to because I was too caught up with pleasing societal expectations.

I can name more circumstances but I think you get what I mean. Each individual has their own priorities and these are usually guided by their values so understand what it is that drives your mind kabazooommm! and chase after it. It is definitely easier said than done. Even at my age of 23, I am still not certain of what I really want to do with my life. I just know that it composes of adventure, coaching, interaction, challenge, and kabillion of new discoveries. I am craving for always learning something different everyday so I am not settling. My next point can be contradictory but it is a necessity in being at pace and not going overboard.

Additional thoughts on this is that prioritize does not mean letting go of the other part of your life. It just means that you will be attending to it lesser than 50% of your energy because really, at the end of the day, you will not notice these percentages because all you will feel is genuine happiness and satisfaction. Only you will know when enough is enough. We must therefore understand the difference between contentment and laziness.

You are the captain of your ship. Sail away!

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