BUILD A ROCK CASTLE.
A castle that will protect you from future rocks being thrown at you? NO.
A castle that will strengthen you to thrive despite the rocks being thrown at you? BIG YES.
I feel like there are a lot of times when we think that the only way to get over pain is to avoid it. Come to think of it, no matter how much we find ways to get rid of it, it still keeps coming and it will never stop because our society is imperfect and thus, mistakes are made that create ripples. The best solution to win the battle is if we prepare for those hurdles. There will be times when we will have to choose between what we want and what we need so in order to steer clear of any distractions, we must
Know our values.
What are three-five things that you value the most in your life?
Now let me tell you that after establishing these, there is a great probability that it will change some time soon. We are still people and we constantly change or for others, we are still creating ourselves or discovering what makes our heart be filled with so much love and passion. You cannot let go of these passions. I know that in reality, we must be practical in determining our careers and all that and if that’s what you value (Professionalism and Practicality), then you can always do those hobbies at the side. On the other hand, if you believe that you must conquer these dreams (Passion), then you have got to make sure that you will stand by it. (Assertiveness and Confidence).
My values as your fellow human being are family, integrity, enthusiasm, and humility.
Know our strengths.
What are your competencies? What makes you stand out among the crowd?
Is it your smile? Your honesty? Your intelligence and confidence? Your creativity? Your ability to draw attention? Your ability to speak in front of a crowd? Your ability to learn fast and work efficiently? Your attention to detail? Whatever it is, work it! Do not get drawn into the Impostor Syndrome. The small things that we tend to think as useless in the “real” world matters the most because these were the characteristics that most people forget when work comes in their way. We are still people and we have our uniqueness so what’s stopping you from strutting your stuff? You deserve to be heard and to be understood. Accept the challenge!
Know how to appreciate.
What are you most thankful for? Who are your influencers and role models?
More than the people who shape your perspective and risks you take in life, you must acknowledge that you have your own book to write and plagiarism is not tolerable at any cost. What I am trying to say is that there is nothing wrong with getting bits and pieces of tricks from people you admire the most; however, you have your own story to be told as well so appreciate yourself too. The smallest things in life like that woman who offered you a seat in the cramped bus while you were carrying two bags, your 4-year-old cousin who hugs you every time you see each other, the co-worker who helped you deal with the difficult customer, the friend who asked you how you were doing, the food your mom cooked, the times your dad takes you to school, and the running water and the lights you have at home matter. In fact, they matter a lot. Worldly things like fame, power, and wealth are all part of the deal in having a “successful” life in the eyes of the society but they themselves and we, as human individuals, know what best defines the concept.
BUILD THAT ROCK CASTLE!